Everyone Is Happy Somewhere, and That’s Enough Everyone Is Winning a Different Race, and None of Us Know the Finish Line I once believed there was a correct way to live life, like a secret formula hidden somewhere between a motivational quote and a financial planning spreadsheet. You know the kind. Graduate on time, find a stable job, build a respectable career, buy a house, and somehow look calm while doing all of it. It sounded reasonable when I was younger, which only proves that I had not yet met enough people to ruin that illusion. One of those people is Hendra. Hendra and I grew up together in rural West Kalimantan, a place where ambition often travels no further than the nearest rice field. His parents were landowners, and their land was tended by tenant farmers who worked under the quiet agreement that Hendra’s future would never involve financial anxiety. At seventeen, while I was still negotiating with my parents about pocket money, Hendra was driving ...
Wherever You Are, That’s My Favorite Place I Don’t Have a Favorite Place, Only People Who Make Places Bearable People often ask about my favorite place, and every time they do, I feel like I am being asked to choose a childhood memory I never had. The question always arrives with such confidence. It appears casually in conversations, wrapped in nostalgia and travel brochures. Someone leans back in their chair, smiling softly, and asks, "What’s your favorite place?" As if everyone carries a sacred location tucked neatly inside their heart, waiting to be revealed like a secret passport stamp. I usually hesitate, not because I am mysterious, but because I am genuinely confused. I have tried to answer it honestly. I have considered beaches with sunsets that look professionally edited. I have thought about quiet cafés where the lighting makes people appear more thoughtful than they actually are. I have even entertained the idea that perhaps my favorite place should be my hometow...